7 very important things. Some of the ladies I work with, they just need the permission to do all the things you’ve said - it’s learning that they don’t need permission from me, but from themselves. Sending love special lady 🤗
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I had 3 miscarriages, the last one nearly killed me as i had to have an emergency D&C as i was bleeding so much. I already had 2 boys and everyone told me to stop, but i told my husband before we were even engaged that i wanted 1, 3 or 5 children. I was stubborn, i couldn't stop at 2. We had an amazing GP who sent me for tests. Turns out i have sticky blood, i got pregnant again and had to have Heparin injections into my stomach fat daily. The pregnancy was long and a total blur but all totally worth it, Nathan (gift from God) was born. I still think of the three i lost. I had a dream once after my mum passed away, she had 4 children around her, one looked around 7, one 11 and another 14 the number of weeks i lost them at and another around 4 making me think there had been another, she was a giggly little thing holding my mums hand. I woke up and cried all over again for all my babies and my mother but the thought that my mum was looking after them gave me comfort that one day I would get to meet them. Sending hugs to everyone that has felt this loss and cried in the shower 💔
Thank you, the guilt that it was my fault because of the blood condition never goes away. I know that i am so very very lucky to have managed to have the ones i have who are my world, but I still think of the children i saw in my dream. Sending you love and hugs beautiful lady. 😘
I would like to send you lovely ladies who have suffered miscarriage, the biggest hugs possible. We should talk about it more, and hopefully then it would help more people. xxx
I suffered at least 2 miscarriages, and several missed miscarriages in our quest to start a family.
Having PCOS diagnosed at 27 helped us finally with the two beautiful, if moody, teens we are now parents to, but those angels are never forgotten.
My 7 things take would be so similar to yours, Mandy.
1. Give yourself time. No one can tell you how long it will take to feel better.
2. Grieve what you have lost. The moment you know you are pregnant, that being becomes a tangible reality. We start dreaming. We need to mourn that loss.
3 &4. Don't be ashamed, and don't be afraid to talk about it. When I suffered the second, I'll always remember a cousin calling me to ask how I was. I was touched. She told me about her own loss. But said not to tell anyone. There was thus shame she felt, at telling others she had lost a baby at some time. There is no shame. It's not your fault!
5. Remember them in a way poignant to you.
6. Share your feelings with your partner. They suffered the loss, too.
It kills me that women feel shame for something like this, when most of the time, it's out of our hands.
That's one thing I try and champion, through my writing and blog, and eapecially within our British Indian community, talking about these things, and not letting them stay taboo.
When I got my PCOS diagnosis, I was open about it. So many others hadn't even heard about the condition.
As a result of my talking openly, at least 2 others in my family got themselves checked, diagnosed, and then went on to have the family they had been struggling to conceive.
Don't ever feel shame, Sis. It was never you, just a hugely sad part of nature we might never understand.
I remember, after both of mine, Pops sat with me and said, "Sometimes, these things are not in our hands. It's His will, and He always has reasons."
The first was not long after I had an op to remove a burst ovary. I was devastated as my already low chances of conceiving were now halved. But maybe he was right. My body was recovering from major surgery. I may not have carried a pregnancy without harm to both me and a baby.
I haven’t had a miscarriage so can’t really know how you feel. I imagine it is one of the worst things you can go through. I am so sorry that happened to you. Your words are beautiful. PTL for the two boys you do have 💙💙
7 very important things. Some of the ladies I work with, they just need the permission to do all the things you’ve said - it’s learning that they don’t need permission from me, but from themselves. Sending love special lady 🤗
I love what you do Caf and how you do it. You are a fantastic therapist and gorgeous human. Your words help me so often. Xxx
Phew darling I send you a big hug 🤗 xxx
which I gratefully receive... X
I had 3 miscarriages, the last one nearly killed me as i had to have an emergency D&C as i was bleeding so much. I already had 2 boys and everyone told me to stop, but i told my husband before we were even engaged that i wanted 1, 3 or 5 children. I was stubborn, i couldn't stop at 2. We had an amazing GP who sent me for tests. Turns out i have sticky blood, i got pregnant again and had to have Heparin injections into my stomach fat daily. The pregnancy was long and a total blur but all totally worth it, Nathan (gift from God) was born. I still think of the three i lost. I had a dream once after my mum passed away, she had 4 children around her, one looked around 7, one 11 and another 14 the number of weeks i lost them at and another around 4 making me think there had been another, she was a giggly little thing holding my mums hand. I woke up and cried all over again for all my babies and my mother but the thought that my mum was looking after them gave me comfort that one day I would get to meet them. Sending hugs to everyone that has felt this loss and cried in the shower 💔
Angela, thank you for posting your beautiful words which I found profoundly moving. Sending you all of my love right now. Xx
Thank you, the guilt that it was my fault because of the blood condition never goes away. I know that i am so very very lucky to have managed to have the ones i have who are my world, but I still think of the children i saw in my dream. Sending you love and hugs beautiful lady. 😘
I would like to send you lovely ladies who have suffered miscarriage, the biggest hugs possible. We should talk about it more, and hopefully then it would help more people. xxx
Thank you lovely Sue Xx
Haa this resonated?
Absolutely.
Huge hugs to you for all your losses, Mandy. 🫂
I suffered at least 2 miscarriages, and several missed miscarriages in our quest to start a family.
Having PCOS diagnosed at 27 helped us finally with the two beautiful, if moody, teens we are now parents to, but those angels are never forgotten.
My 7 things take would be so similar to yours, Mandy.
1. Give yourself time. No one can tell you how long it will take to feel better.
2. Grieve what you have lost. The moment you know you are pregnant, that being becomes a tangible reality. We start dreaming. We need to mourn that loss.
3 &4. Don't be ashamed, and don't be afraid to talk about it. When I suffered the second, I'll always remember a cousin calling me to ask how I was. I was touched. She told me about her own loss. But said not to tell anyone. There was thus shame she felt, at telling others she had lost a baby at some time. There is no shame. It's not your fault!
5. Remember them in a way poignant to you.
6. Share your feelings with your partner. They suffered the loss, too.
7. Hug those you do have, tighter.
Hugs to all 🫂🫂🫂
Thank you for sharing this Ritu. That shame is a kicker. I still feel it a little... sometimes a lot. X
It kills me that women feel shame for something like this, when most of the time, it's out of our hands.
That's one thing I try and champion, through my writing and blog, and eapecially within our British Indian community, talking about these things, and not letting them stay taboo.
When I got my PCOS diagnosis, I was open about it. So many others hadn't even heard about the condition.
As a result of my talking openly, at least 2 others in my family got themselves checked, diagnosed, and then went on to have the family they had been struggling to conceive.
Don't ever feel shame, Sis. It was never you, just a hugely sad part of nature we might never understand.
I remember, after both of mine, Pops sat with me and said, "Sometimes, these things are not in our hands. It's His will, and He always has reasons."
The first was not long after I had an op to remove a burst ovary. I was devastated as my already low chances of conceiving were now halved. But maybe he was right. My body was recovering from major surgery. I may not have carried a pregnancy without harm to both me and a baby.
Maybe he was right. Xx
Pops - you are wonderful Xx
I haven’t had a miscarriage so can’t really know how you feel. I imagine it is one of the worst things you can go through. I am so sorry that happened to you. Your words are beautiful. PTL for the two boys you do have 💙💙
He truly is 🥰